Frequently Asked Questions
ABBREVIATED RULES OF ENGAGEMENT:
New clients are to complete an application for an appointment prior to discussing a possible session.
You are to be brief with answers on my contact form and succinct about your desires for our potential time together.
After confirming a time and date for our session, there will be a non-refundable deposit fee paid in advance (see Tribute & Deposit section below), and then we can start planning and discussing details. Do not send a deposit until it is requested.
Confirmation of our engagement is required two (2) days prior to session via email.
Please always reply to the last email exchanged between us and never create or start a email new thread. Please wait for my response to the last email sent before “double” emailing me. Creating a new email thread or writing me when I have not yet replied to the previous email is a surefire way to upset your Mistress!
All clients will shower on site prior to session even if you claim you just showered.
Always be sure to do a water only “enema” prior to session if we are to engage in anal play beyond a finger or small toy (see Hygiene section for directions on proper administration).
I DO NOT DO SAME OR NEXT DAY APPOINTMENTS. Patience is the key to paradise with this Mistress! I am booked in advance but I can sometimes fulfill a three (3) hour or longer outcall to a 4 or 5 star hotel in NYC with limited notice if all screening information is sent properly in your initial contact form (P411 does not count) and a deposit is received immediately after being requested.
I will offer you my soonest availability when you request to see me. If you question my date options and request a sooner date (trust me, there are no sooner dates available) then I know that you a) have bad boundaries b) don't understand how good I am c) don't think I'm worth the wait- don't make me question your intelligence before the first date.
I do not offer doubles (unless a personally known to me provider) or couples sessions for our first meeting and couples sessions will incur an additional $500/hour. I will never provide a stud!
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DEPOSIT, TRIBUTE, & CANCELLATION:
DEPOSIT:
I say "no" to others when I say "yes" to you. This reservation fee or “deposit” does not count toward the tribute on the day of our date and is 100% non-refundable for any reason unless I cancel. If you need to postpone or reschedule, you will need to pay an additional deposit for the new date, even with generous notice. Please scroll on to see my cancellation policy. I am booked up in advance often so I will reiterate this fact: I say "no" to others when I say "yes" to you.
Again, the reservation fee is separate from my tribute the day that we tryst. For longer sessions or special engagements, the reservation fee and a potential deposit/early portion of the tribute terms will be negotiated on a case by case basis. There is no true discount in my tribute breakdown for seeing me for a longer session as the experience doesn't cheapen the more time we spend together.
Required deposits, and any other session planning payments, may be sent to the email address that I have provided to you. These electronic gift cards are the only acceptable methods of online payment: Whole Foods, Uber, Lyft, or Amazon. Uber and Lyft have a $200 limit and the Whole Foods maximum gift card amount is $500. Amazon is the best way to send large amount with a $2000 max but increments of $500 are preferred.
If you do not feel comfortable sending a deposit electronically, then please purchase a physical Uber, Lyft, or Amazon gift card for the appropriate amount, scratch off the silver coating on the back, and send me the combination of numbers and letters underneath the silver foil. Please also send a photograph of the code on the back of the card after you have scratched off the silver foil in addition to typing me the combination of numbers and letters. These gift cards cards can be purchased at Walgreens or an equivalent store.
Never, under any circumstances, send me a deposit before we confirm our meeting; only send it after I clearly ask for your deposit. Never send the full tribute before we meet unless previously confirmed. DO NOT SEND A DEPOSIT BEFORE I ASK FOR ONE!
TRIBUTE:
Full tribute is expected at beginning of session to be left where I can see it first thing or directly handed to me; I should never have to inquire about this exchange. My tribute amounts are clearly listed on my Amour and Kinky Amour pages and start at $3000 for a three (3) hour minimum. I may do a two hour session on a case by case basis with established Ramona men. Please inquire directly about longer engagements and travel adventures. You have the option of using an ePayment or Bitcoin method to pay my tribute if you are an established client. Full tribute this way is expected at least two hours or more prior to our scheduled engagement. Please text me after this has been sent so that I can confirm the receipt.
All money is good money but hundred dollar bills are preferred and I want them organized and front facing. If you pay in 20s then you’re an asshole. If you feel you must put my tribute in an envelope, do not lick the envelope or write on the envelope! I will reuse it as I send mail frequently.
CANCELLATION:
Please remit 50% of my tribute for cancellations within 48 hours and my full tribute is expected for cancellations within 24 hours or less of our established date. Overnights require half the amount if canceled within the same week and the full amount if canceled within 48 hours. Overnights are no joke and take serious planning! Tour is also no joke and it is a huge deal when you cancel. If you cancel within two weeks of seeing me on tour then I require half of the tribute and within a week the full tribute to be sent within 48 hours of cancellation.
I will accept electronic gift cards from Whole Foods or Amazon for the total amount of the cancellation fee in lieu of more conventional electronic funds (send these cards in increments of $500 and make sure they add up to the total amount). Please text me in addition to an email if you need to cancel within 24 hours as a sign of respect for my time. The deposit paid for the cancelled session is not refundable or transferable to another date. I expect a monetary gesture or a gift off my wish list for cancellations within the week of us meeting. Gestures of respect and generosity will ensure that our relationship has a future.
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SCREENING:
I screen very thoroughly. Security and privacy are important for us to establish a safe, open, and honest relationship. It is necessary for my security to verify everyone with whom I may meet. My screening process is discreet and your privacy is very important to me. Any information given to me will be treated with the utmost confidentiality. I cannot easily screen a third person, whether your partner or another provider, so I request that we meet alone for our first encounter.
I require a minimum of two (2) active and reputable provider references in the form of their name and email address. Reputable providers are those who are known to me, have a website (not just an ad), and usually have an established Twitter page. If you are new and have never seen a provider or have been absent from the hobby for a few years, please read on to the next section.
It is appreciated if you provide a link to their website in addition to their name and email address. If you only provide me with a link to their website, this will NOT do; I should never have to lift a pretty little finger to find their contact information. I find it insulting when clients only provide a website. Phone numbers are useless to me and if a provider cannot handle an inbox, then they are not a reputable provider to me, and you will need to find another way to get verified.
I personally do not speak to clients outside of email until they have been seen by me. A request to engage in any other manner with me via phone, text, or video chat prior to our first meeting will incur an additional fee and it should be offered before any request is made. I have no time for inquiries that are uncertain or not 100% convinced that I am your Mistress.
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IF YOU HAVE NEVER SEEN A PROVIDER BEFORE OR HAVE NO ACTIVE REFERENCES:
If you have no references then, where you would enter provider references on my contact form, please provide me with the following: a link to your public LinkedIn profile and/or a link to a professional business website or both where your name and contact information are shown. If you do not have either, please write me a nice, courteous message explaining that you do not have either but offer other ways that you can prove your identity and make me feel secure that you’re not a jerk, pig, or serial killer.
Once your contact form is received, and if it looks like you are an intelligent and thoughtful human being, I will write back and request that one or all of the following be provided to me: a photograph of a government issued ID with personal information covered or blurred out (such as your home address) but leaving your name, date of birth, photo, and full name. A LinkedIn, work ID with your picture, a photo of your business card, or an email sent to me (to a non-risqué email address that I can provide) from your business email is also required. Most unexpired government issued IDs will suffice in addition to professional looking work information to prove to me that you are a functional human. Following my instructions and jumping through my hoops also proves your intelligence and devotion.
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WHO DO I NOT WANT TO SEE:
Those who look at me just as a notch on their belt and not as a fascinating human being are men I do not want to see. You can get to know me personally through our courtship and eventual meeting but my bio is a great place to start besides my blog!
Those who want same or next day appointments- not happening!
I do not want to see anyone with a large member (6” plus) who jackhammers/does the rabbit.
I generally cannot do wide plus large (6” plus) without discomfort unless we keep it to mostly Greek. Long and skinny is A-OK.
I am not interested in men who lie about their impotency issues or cannot cum. Please tell me prior to session if you have impotency or climax issues, as I have ways to circumvent this normal situation, but I need to know prior to session. Please find another provider f you do not feel comfortable telling me about this before session either in writing or in person. I also love Viagra!
Those who do not respect my time i.e. taking a very long shower after session or lingering to chat after our time is over. I am polite but I have a busy life. Remember that this is a sacred container and part of it being special is a clear beginning and ending. I’m not going anywhere so just come back and we’ll resume where we left off.
Additionally, I need to know if you are obese so I can make special arrangements, especially for kink sessions. I see people with all body types but I need to be prepared in advance for larger lovers.
A third person during our first session is not happening.
Those who cancel sessions without compensation for my time.
Communication is the foundation of our relationship and I want a strong foundation with you!
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HOURS & LONGER ARRANGEMENTS:
I typically engage beginning at 9:30 am and ending by 9:30 pm unless on a date lasting three (3) or more hours. Longer dates can make my hours be earlier or later depending on the situation. Whether I am on tour or not, I will make exceptions for longer sessions that start very early or end on the later side, if they are three (3) hours or longer;
I do not offer same and next-day appointments, especially to men who I have not already seen and rarely to those known to me; and
Meetings of four (4) or more hours would be extra lovely if a meal and/or outdoor activity is included. But your Mistress can keep you tied up in the boudoir for hours on end!
When I am booked or busy this does not mean that I am flat on my back 24/7. I am a low-volume provider who takes days off, does self care, and has an exciting civilian life. My lifestyle ensures that I am consistently a high-quality experience. It is not uncommon for me to be booked out for a few weeks or months at a time. Patience is my favorite quality in a client!
LOCATION:
I use hotels in Manhattan or Williamsburg as my NYC location. I find shared spaces messy and unhygienic. I had a private incall space in Gramercy Park but getting a hotel room is much easier for me. The NYC hotel fee is not included in my tribute. I love outcalls in NYC if you can host! When I tour places such as San Francisco or Boston then I do not charge a hotel fee as I’m there for an extended stay.
The mouthwash in the bathroom is for you when you see me at any location! The liquid soap for your use in the shower will be scent free from the organic Dr. Bronner’s brand. I provide scent free for your discretion but you can use any shower gel available. I also do not wear perfume of any sort. You need to leave smelling like yourself as our secret is for us only!
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LOCAL OUTCALL:
In NYC, I offer three (3) hour or longer outcall sessions in Manhattan and Williamsburg.
If the session is four (4) hours or longer I may require a larger deposit which will be determined based on the nature of our arrangement. I charge travel fees as needed bespoke to equipment needed, travel time, and location. Outcalls to other boroughs, Connecticut, New Jersey, Long Island, or elsewhere in the Tri-State area will be discussed on an individual basis but most likely won’t happen- Manhattan, Williamsburg, or bust! Overnights require a $600 booking fee (not a deposit) and half the amount if canceled within the same week and the full amount if canceled within 48 hours. Overnights are no joke and take serious planning!
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TOURING OUTSIDE NYC:
I do not grandfather rates because my time is limited. When I say yes to you then I say no to someone who would pay my current rate. Touring is not cheap and I will not subsidize your pleasure.
Lucky for you, unlike many providers when they tour, my tribute amount will remain the same when I visit your city. I will require a $60 deposit per hour booked, which is separate from my tribute. There is no additional incall fee when I tour.
I require a four (4) hour minimum session to be booked for outcalls while touring. My deposit for these sessions is at least $400 to cover my time and travel fees. My time is extra valuable when I travel. I may require a larger deposit, if the session is longer than four (4) hours, which will be determined based on the nature of our arrangement. These deposits are separate and non-refundable.
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FMTY & More
I love being in NYC and hosting in NYC. The easiest and most cost effective way to see me is by flying yourself here or wherever I may be on tour. We can tryst in your hotel room or my place. If you want to fly me to you, then I require business class minimum for the flight, my own room if more than two nights, and a $2000 travel and planning fee for groceries and whatever else I may need, and only if you reside in one of my preferred cities listed below.
I love my life in NYC and will only leave if I am flown to you and then some. The incentive to leave my amazing city is minimal. Also, I will only consider going to San Francisco, Los Angeles, New Orleans, Miami, DC, Boston, Chicago, Philadelphia, Richmond, Asheville, Savannah, Pittsburgh, Mexico City, Paris, London, Cairo, and anywhere in Japan. Any city that has not been listed requires a lot of financial incentive for me to leave home. Come to me in NYC and let me be your favorite Hostess or make it extra worth my while and fly me out. Either way, I bring my very own brand of fierce pleasure no matter where we play!
HYGIENE IS THE KEY TO MY HEART:
It is easiest for me to work with a clean slate even if you have already showered before coming to see me. Therefore, it is mandatory that you will shower upon arrival before we begin our session. Part of your clean slate is arriving scent and cologne free. You are also welcome to shower after session. Please arrive with trimmed nails and cuticles and groomed feet as toenails can ruin my beloved stockings. Please also note that second day stubble hurts my soft skin. Please be clean shaven or have a beard or mustache but no stubble. I will provide mouthwash for you in the bathroom. Please use the mouthwash as it is provided for a reason!
Use a water enema prior to our engagement if you plan on experiencing anal pleasure more than just a finger.
My strong suggestion is that you purchase a Fleet enema or any equivalent brand at your local drug store. In order to administer an enema for our purposes, empty the enema bottle of the saline solution, refill the bottle with warm water, squirt upwards while sitting upright into anal cavity while on the toilet or squatting in the shower, and do not hold it in — release it immediately! Repeat two or three times until your most immediate anal cavity is clean. I am not interested in clean intestines unless you are looking for a fisting! Please perform this an hour or two prior to session and not at my incall. If we’re doing heavy anal play then I recommend taking an Imodium the morning of debauch.
You can find more information on anal play on me and you on my anal pleasure page.
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MEASUREMENTS:
Height: 5'9"
Weight: 116lbs
Dress: 2US/6UK/36EU
Shoe: 8.5US/Louboutin: 39
Bust: 32C
Waist: 24"
Hips: 33"
Please see my wish list for further specifics.
DO YOU WANT ME TO BRING ANYTHING TO SESSION?
Anything off my wish list is a good start. I also adore water in glass and fresh flowers. Please do not bring me any food or sweets. If you want to feed me then I suggest a dinner date. I no longer drink alcohol, but feel free to bring booze if you wish for your own enjoyment; I want you to be comfortable and relaxed during our session. Not a lot phases me; please enjoy yourself as you wish even though my right to party has been revoked and has not yet been reinstated. Please leave your watch at home.
THAT WAS AMAZING- HOW DO I SEE YOU AGAIN?
Merely reply to the last email exchanged between us and suggest another date preference, how long you wish to session, and an approximate time slot. Do not text, call, or message me on P411 or any other platform. Do not resubmit a contact form. Email is always the best way to communicate with me after we are established.
DO YOU WANT ME TO LEAVE A REVIEW FOR YOU?
Yes please but ask first! TER and PrivateDelights are a great place to do this and I encourage reviews.
CAN I USE YOU AS A REFERENCE?
Email me first and ask for this privilege. Do not give out my information without permission. Privacy and discretion goes both ways.
MUSIC:
I am open to requests but definitely have my favorites from goth in the vein of Bauhaus to surf music channeling the Pulp Fiction soundtrack to my favorite 70s punk mix. If you enjoyed what you heard in session or want to get a better sense of my musical taste, then please visit my Ramona Ryder YouTube channel.
If you are hearing impaired or very sensitive to sound and music hinders your enjoyment of a session, please notify me prior so that we can begin the scene without interruption.
YOU'RE MY FIRST PROVIDER OR KINK EXPERIENCE...
Lucky me! I love newbies and it is my passion to help people explore their sexuality. Basically, I specialize in making fantasies a reality so please do not be afraid to bring your desires to me. My sessions are a judgment free zone. As one client stated in a recent review, I will really “go there” with you in a way that makes one feel safe and comfortable. Please read my reviews to get a sense of my composure in session.
WILL YOU LEAVE MARKS?
I am very careful to not leave you visibly marked post session unless given clear permission or upon request. But, if you ask for harder in the heat of the moment, I will give it to you, and it is your responsibility to accept your body's reaction. Please notify me if you are on blood thinners or Aspirin therapy or if you have thin skin that breaks easily prior to our meeting. If you are worried about bruising, please take oral arnica prior to session, for up to three days prior, and buy some arnica cream or gel for post-session application.
FAVORITE KINK ACTIVITIES & SPECIALTIES OF YOUR MISTRESS:
ANAL PLAY: Strap-on/Strapon, Prostate Massage, P-Spot Pleasure, Dildos, Anal Hooks, Plugs, Stretching, Fisting, Extreme Anal Play, Footing, Pegging. Even more anal play information is located on my anal pleasure page.
BONDAGE: Cuffs, leather ties, rope, etc
COCK AND BALL TORTURE (CBT): Cock & Ball Bondage/Separation, Needles, Squeezing, Temperature Play, Nails, Sensation Play, etc
COLLARS, CHASTITY, & KEYHOLDING: Rituals & Ownership, Training, Total Submission, Chastity Cages (only for serious submission), Verbal Chastity, etc
CORPORAL: Caning, Whipping, Flogging, Crops, Paddling, Straps, Belts, etc
EDGING/ORGASM CONTROL/JOI/CEI: Let's see how long I can edge your orgasm…
E-STIM, ELECTRO PLAY, & EROTIC ELECTROSTIMULATION: Violet Wand- I need to know prior to play if you suffer from diabetes, heart disease, or high blood pressure and, if you have a pacemaker or insulin pump, then we cannot play this way- extra fee!
FACE SLAPPING: Bare Handed or with Leather or Latex Gloves, wet or dry
FETISH WEAR & CHARACTER DRESS: Leather, Latex, PVC, Fur, Vintage Lingerie/Pin-Up, School Girl, Secretary, Biker Babe, Punk, Goth, Innocent, Extreme Heels, Thigh High Boots, etc
FOOT & BOOT WORSHIP: Bare Feet, Feet in Fetish Stockings i.e. Cuban Heel, Ballet Boots, Thigh High Boots, Trampling, Foot Job, Footing
LATEX & LEATHER: I love wearing Latex and Leather and I delight in wearing my amazing plethora of fetish and fantasy wear
NEEDLE PLAY/PLAY PIERCING: I am highly trained in Needle Play & blood borne pathogen safety
NIPPLE PLAY & NIPPLE TORTURE (NT): Sensual to Extreme- fingers, teeth, clamps, other instruments
ROLE PLAY: Seduction, Forbidden Affairs, Student/Teacher, Doctor/Nurse, Religious Scenarios, Cuckold (without a third), Consensual Non-Consent (without a third), Taboo & More
SENSORY DEPRIVATION: Visual, Audial, & Vacuum Bed if you provide
SENSATION PLAY: Fur, Leather, Silk, Wartenberg Pinwheels, Vampire Gloves, Nails, Claws, Ice, Wax, Heat, Cold, Spikes, Stockings, & More
SOUNDS: Urethral Sounds (with or without temperature play)
SPANKING: Bare Handed or with Leather or Latex Gloves, Over The Knee (OTK)
TEASE & DENIAL: Severe Edging, Orgasm Control, Strip Tease, Toy Shows, Withholding, Begging
VENUS 2000: Ultimate Masturbation Milking Machine (can allow one to reach orgasm with or without an erection)- extra fee!
WORSHIP: Bare Body Worship, Smothering, Queening, Legs, Breasts, High Heels, Feet, Pantyhose/Stockings
NOT INTO PAIN OR EXTREME KINK BUT STILL WANT TO BE DOMMED & TOPPED SENSUALLY? THEN I'M THE MISTRESS FOR YOU! SUBMIT TO ME & I WILL TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOU. TURN YOUR WILL OVER TO ME. LET ME TAKE COMPLETE CONTROL.
You're not a masochist? Then this sensual sadist will take it easy on you! I only enjoy inflicting pain if it turns you on. If you enjoy bondage, I can strap you down, tie you up, or chain you up and pleasure for hours on end all without pain. This is one example of a kinky scenario that is not "vanilla" but is still a sensual experience and falls under the Kinky Amour umbrella.
If you are a nervous but curious novice, I can ease you into experiencing anal play, pegging, spanking, flogging, paddles, crops, and so on. I have introduced many kink newbies to a range of anal, stingy, thuddy, and whippy sensations in a gentle way which helped open up the endless possibilities of what can be experienced during BDSM play.
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MY WARDROBE:
I enjoy classic lingerie (Agent Provocateur and Bordelle are my favorites!), latex, rubber, leather, vinyl, PVC, and classic 1950s “pin-up” inspired pieces as well as actual vintage lingerie like trashy Fredrick’s of Hollywood and accessories. I also adore a man who appreciates a good pair of stockings and I lust for Wolford nylons. Please ask me for my sizing for specific items or visit my Wish List if you’d wish to see some items I currently desire for session. For stockings and thigh-highs, I tend to be a medium and a small for all others.
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YOUR HARD LIMITS AND BOUNDARIES:
Please tell me immediately if you have hard limits, psychological boundaries, physical limitations, or recent or lasting injuries as well as chronic pain. If you do not know what your “hard limits” are, be logical about it. For example, if you are claustrophobic, your hard limit would be wearing a hood but maybe a blindfold is OK. Many men tell me immediately that they do not like certain things which I appreciate- it’s good to know what we want and don’t want. Think about it and let me know these important facts on the contact form. These vocalized limits will always be respected.
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MY HARD LIMITS AND BOUNDARIES:
Toilet play
Ruby play
Photographs and filming
Bare back
Forced bi with a stud or cuckold fantasy with a third
Feminization or “sissification”
Enema administration
Degradation of any race, gender, sex, sexuality, body type, or religion
Smoking & smoking fetish
Scent play
You wearing heavy cologne or scents
Multiple emails when I have not responded to the prior one
Long emails
Drug play and forced intoxication is allowed on case by case basis
Black lipstick with any session earlier than 6pm
A third person for our first date
Watches, especially Apple watches, in the bedroom
ROLE PLAY:
I adore role play! It's even in my astrological chart that I was born to be an actress. That said, scripts and lengthy role play descriptions are NOT appreciated. Always be concise when addressing your Mistress!
WHAT ARE YOUR FAVORITE PLAY SCENARIOS?
I love playing naughty Nurse Ramona or the inappropriate psychiatrist Dr. Ryder who will cure you of your specific kinks and perversions through multiple treatments and techniques. I very much enjoy medical play and wearing a uniform. I additionally enjoy student/teacher scenarios due to the power exchange involved where I punish you for a bad grade I received at your hand and put you through hell to raise my GPA. I have a really cute school girl skirt! Or maybe I'm a sexually harassing boss or interviewer for that job you so desperately need or vice versa. I can and usually will go to very dark places and do "taboo" scenes so just ask! If I listed everything I enjoy doing, this list would be endless...
BIOGRAPHY:
This kinky goth punk escort based in NYC is a multifaceted character with a life story that's never been boring. I have lived many lifetimes before becoming your Mistress. Get to know me better by reading my bio page. I hope you are a part of my future!
WEBSITE AND PHOTOGRAPHY CREDITS:
It took great effort and endless hours to design this site in collaboration with Erin Black of Black Ash Consulting. Black Ash Consulting designed and custom-coded my site, and I created all the content. Again, all the writing on the site is mine and mine alone. It is insulting to question whether I wrote my own ad copy. I am a writer if you can’t tell already from my blog which I call Musings on my site.
My primary photos were shot by Elizabeth Raab, Hello Miss Photography, Inamorata, Point of Vue, and Alexandra Kacha.
FELLOW PROVIDERS:
CLIENT REFERENCES:
If your new client used me as a reference and you need a reference from me, do NOT fill out my contact form. Please ask your potential client to provide my email address and contact me that way.
When emailing me, please include the following information:
Client Name
Client Email Address
Client Phone Number
Link to your website and/or ads as to verify you as an established provider
AD COPY:
If you are writing or rewriting your website, I suggest that you do not have another provider’s site open as you write your own ad copy as inadvertently, you will steal content. Stealing is never in good taste and rarely goes unnoticed.
NEW PROVIDERS:
I’d be happy to chat with you about screening, safety, and provide other resources. Hopefully, you’ll in turn, do the same thing with other providers after you are more established. I will only help when asked and at my discretion. My biggest gripe in the industry is when we do not help each other. It is a community not a competition- there’s enough sun on the beach for everyone!
