GOTH MISTRESS?
Your NYC Mistress
RAMONA RYDER - AESTHETICALLY GOTH
One of the funniest things about Ramona Ryder is that I do not fully identify as part of any subculture today, including goth, yet I still use the terms “goth” and “punk” in my descriptions of myself. Goth music was never really my thing until I started spending endless hours in a dungeon. The thought of dancing at goth night was the stuff of nightmares. When I first became your Mistress, my life revolved around punk: punk shows, punk politics, and the DIY mentality. When I become interested in something, I am all in. The whole goth music thing happened completely by accident.
Being a punk, record players and cassettes were still very much a part of my life. I did not fuck with elaborate speaker systems and was a borderline technophobe. VPNs, Bitcoin, and encrypted email were about as far as I got because I had to adapt to keep us safe. Otherwise, I preferred analog whenever possible. I could never be bothered to learn the speaker system at the dungeon where I rented, so I played whatever was already loaded.
That meant Bauhaus' In the Flat Field, two Ramones songs, and hours of ambient '90s music that stirred annoyance deep within my soul. For nearly a year, every session was set to that same Bauhaus album. By the time I built my own dungeon, I had become an expert at curating the perfect goth soundtrack. It turned out the brooding vocals and beautifully macabre atmosphere were perfect for more dominant sessions, while my GFE appointments called for an entirely different mood inspired by the Pulp Fiction soundtrack.
With my goth branding, I simply happen to check a lot of the visual boxes: black, leather, latex, chains, crucifixes, black ink tattoos, the occasional veil, and a near-vampiric avoidance of the sun. Unsurprisingly, "goth escort" and "goth dominatrix" remain among my biggest search terms, so I happily use them. They describe an aesthetic, not the Mistress. Like every other part of a session, even the music is bespoke. Branding may be what first catches your eye, but it is personality, conversation, and chemistry that keeps a Ramona man returning. Ramona Ryder has never fit neatly into any category, and I have no interest in starting now. I am beyond labels, but I am certainly not beyond branding!
