SCREENING GOES BOTH WAYS
Despite the questionable elements of sex worker review sites, such as objectifying women, there are benefits for both providers and clients to using these sites for mutual screening. Review boards, such as The Erotic Review (TER) when it was still active in the USA or currently PrivateDelights, can be helpful when confirming any initial inklings of doubt about certain suiters.
In the past, if a potential client seemed a bit off in their initial tone, when TER was still active, I would then go read their reviews. Seeing chronic behavior of mostly rating providers as 6's and 7's and saying derogatory things about them, confirmed that my initial sense of something being off was correct. If a potential client is always picking girls who he deems a “6/7” then he is not doing his due diligence when seeing providers, hates women, is impossible to satisfy, or all of the aforementioned.
I don’t want to see difficult clients, likewise, my clients don’t want to invest their money and time in difficult providers. One of my clients stated the following when I ran the concept of this blog by him, “One thing I think about with the lack of reviews out there after SESTA/FOSTA is that it cuts out some clients. There is a class of client that is too scared to see “street workers” but paying hundreds of dollars for an “escort" is a huge expense that they don't take lightly. So, reviews may help entice them to spend the money. This is also true for guys who aren't experienced hobbyists.”
Reading that feedback from him made me realize that, not only did I feel safer by being able to see what men wrote about previous providers, but men felt safer by being able to see reviews, as well. I think everyone should feel safe and be safe when meeting face to face. Hobbyist culture has its issues, but it also has the potential to bring a sense of ease to first encounters in a world where our first-time mystery dates can cause anxiety.
Considering that I was #3 in San Francisco on TER and, at one point, in the international top 20, I can’t say that I disagreed with most of the reviews that were written about me. Those reviews put men at ease before they met me; they knew that I was a verified good time and worth the effort. Those amazing reviews left for me on TER brought so many wonderful clients into my life and the reviews left on PrivateDelights so far have done the same.
I delight in reading my reviews on a voyeuristic level. Some of my reviews, especially on TER, were very well-written and sensually poetic. My reviews prove that I am not just a notch on a client’s belt, but that I am their Mistress who they respect and value. The steamy reviews left for me are also enjoyable because it turns me on reading the renditions of our hedonism. Having reviews posted about me acts almost as a sex scrapbook; it’s sad that my TER reviews are gone but I have enjoyed the reviews left for me in the wake of SESTA/FOSTA on PrivateDelights.
To those of you I have not yet met or those of you who have yet to leave me a review- I look forward to a future together of making new memories, published or unpublished.
xx Ramona Ryder
P.S. It seems the closest site currently mimicking the now defunct Night Shift or RedBook is PrivateDelights although it suggests, for the courtesy of providers, to not leave explicit reviews. That said, I encourage my clients to leave me explicit reviews and I will not request that PrivateDelights take them down. PrivateDelights leaves it up to the provider's discretion if the review stays up or is removed.
P.P.S. The typewriter in the photographs is my 1940's Remington Rand Deluxe Model 5 Portable Typewriter that I restored and still use regularly.
DISCLAIMER: I am very grateful that I can pick and choose who I see as a client and I know that I am very privileged in this regard. I support fellow sex workers from all backgrounds and will continue to be a resource and ally when any verified provider contacts me for a reference. I regularly and generously donate to pro-sex worker organizations that serve more marginalized providers and I can provide recommendations of organizations that need your support.